Love Letter from Dr. Love for All
“No evidence, no love! “ Bias or truth? Why do we feel that we are running out of cuddling? A specialist in heart problems is trying to rekindle these questions.
Dr. Love:
-How important is the evidence of love in a couple?
Very important. Showing love, also operates with a fuel atmosphere which creates a beneficial, mutual trust, extremely important because feelings can manifest themselves in their fullness. For a relationship to last, it is vital that your partner knows what love is. Evidence enhances a love relationship, they do burn, regardless of condition : comfort, statements, attention … Spiritual support and confidence are crucial in a relationship.
Can a couple run without evidence of love?
I do not think so. And if it still works, it is welded on other love interests: material interests, a reputation to be protected, a relationship in which each of the partners live a double life, but stay together because of children, etc.. It is clear that in such an “association” feelings do not matter. But where they exist, evidence must be necessary. People who do not have the courage to admit their feelings or to express feelings have serious mental problems, which worsens with time. Not only they are unhappy, but also those with whom they live. It is true that after a number of years, in some couples, the evidence of love is not so romantic at first, but partners establish other rituals of tenderness and affection, in order to communicate of love. Little gestures, everyday, which signals that the fire burns, blaze although they have subsided.
There are couples in which only one partner expresses his love by evidence. Such an unequal relationship doesn’t take much.
The person who constantly expresses his feelings, without receiving a response after a shorter or a longer time, feels like investing in empty, although the absence of evidence does not mean that other partner lost motivation in the life of torque. There are people with colder natures, reserved, the manifestation of love is a handicap, but that does not mean lack of affection. Unfortunately, a couple with such inequalities of expression will never work fully, the dissatisfaction of waiting for a response that occurs late turns often in depression.
Not a depression to go to the doctor, but quite pronounced, to push your couple into a shadow area. The excessive delay, the lack of evidence of love that some people have an absolute need turns into a painful wait, often leading to rupture. There is, however, one problem: everyone, we all have a tendency to expect from life partners more evidence than we love ourselves able to offer. New studies done on this subject in the West, proving that every member of a couple is waiting from his comrade more affection, understanding, sincerity and appreciation than he is able to give.
Is evidence of love limited?
Never, as long as they are animated by a real sense. Even the phone everyday, you get to the office or home, you do well. The simple question “What are you doing?” is the proof that someone thinks of you, despite the turmoil and the stress of the day. There is another danger for the disease: they express excess of an exacerbated sentimentality. The evidence of love should be like salt in food: without it, you’re also a patient subjected to treatment, with too much salt, you get sick.
Are women more willing than men in evidence of love?
In this respect, there are differences. Frame expectations of love relationships are equal. Only manifestation of disease can be more romantic to women. But it’s just an opinion.
How important is the sentence: “I love you”?
This sentences is very important. To synthesize in just two words, all the evidence of love, all the gestures that can express this feeling. When “I love you” expresses a fact (and it feels right), it is a great milestone sentimental identification. I recognize the love that you live, you become aware of the feelings near you. Just as in life, the emotional identification is giving energy and joy. An “I love you” from the heart has often explosive effects. It’s incredible what enormous power gives us a sense of shared love. It has psychological and physical parameters as an exceptional work.
Who is better off with “I love you”? Women or men?
Surprisingly, tests conducted on this issue showing that men are more likely for women to say these words. Perhaps because it represents a commitment to a high dose of challenge. Women are not prepared to “play” as hard as men. They need time.
Why is it so hard for people to say these words?
For those who are not sure they are addressed they will respond kindly. In a way, “I love you” is a risk. An offer which, if not accepted immediately, resembles a defeat. Feeling rejected, unwanted, although it is not always true. Voltage sentimental moments do not occur simultaneously. Each of us has times of peak and drops. If we occur to deal with a problem the declaration of love and its answer would be false. Do not rush, so do not utter these words and, especially, do not turn into a formality. There are many moments in the life of a couple when both partners achieve optimum condition to speak, at the same time, “I love you”. Love life is very hard to guess outside meanders. A scale of pharmacy would be rude to it.
Have love soap operas, movies and non-stop broadcast on TV any influence on the evidence of love?
Certainly, that is an inhibiting influence. When you hear “I love you” the Conveyor (as happens in the American series, when words are spoken by the characters who barely know), the essence of love turns into a cliche, it loses power. Fortunately, true love is the negative of a soap opera. I wish you to find your true love as I found out mine.
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