Love is a mysterious and inexplicable feeling. Throughout mankind’s existence, it encouraged people to great discoveries, wars and created beautiful works of art. Some recognize love, others strongly deny. Someone thinks love is brain chemistry, someone – a manifestation of the divine and an inexplicable feeling, bestowed by nature, inhabiting creatures.
It is not necessary to believe
In order to distinguish love from her pseudo-entities, particularly, you should not take for granted what is considered to be love in our society. For example, such confusing statements about love are the following: to strike means to love . Jealousy is an expression of love. Love eventually becomes a habit. Love is the manifestation of the divine as opposed to the whole material, which kills it.
And so on. Mankind has cemented the experience of life in such axioms, starting gradually to believe in their invincible force and certainty. That is the negative experience of our forefathers which became a legend and acquired the status of truisms.
But do not forget an important fact: people believe that if they are sincere and keen, they get in life. The power of our thoughts is not appreciated, and its opportunities are immense. And if you are taking for granted the above statements, then they will soon manifest in reality personally for you, creating your own living space. And it turns out that someone’s jealousy turns into an indisputable proof of a strong sense of a partner (which actually shows his cowardice and a lot of hidden complexes), beatings in love at the height of passion and strong feelings edge (hide all of the same complex, the fear of loneliness and the rejection of a wild right to choose their partner on the path of life). Your subconscious belief that all “knowledge” about human love is true, will attract it into your life, the partners who will prove to you these beliefs in practice.
Be aware of the personal unconscious attitudes and behaviors
This is a repeated proven fact by psychologists. We have largely copied the behavior of our parents , where it is consciously or somewhere completely unconsciously in relation to life, work, and its superiors, including our sexual partner. Wealthy families, thrive for understanding and warm to each other , men and women give their children appropriate behavior: respect for the right to choose a partner, the ability to maintain in all situations and coexist as two full and equal rights. In contrast, families where there is disharmony in any form: a tyrannical father, mother, oppressed, the man is at his woman’s heel , jealousy, suspicion and scandal reign there, or the marriage ends in divorce . These families are able to convey a negative experience, the love of their offspring, makes a mess and confusion in the immature minds. And it turns out that their daughter may unconsciously attract into her life unhappy relationships with men, if her mother had had experience of an unsuccessful marriage or divorce. The son, who grew up in the fetters of power, rejecting mother’ s disobedience will not be able to make his own decisions in life and become a real mainstay for loving his woman. Rather, it will subconsciously attract into his life such as the power of women, that his mother was, or, conversely, will be looking for a quiet and inconspicuous relationship partner, whom he could vent all his resentment and unspoken power to prove his right to be an independent man. A man who grew up with a burning hatred for himself or a huge number of systems (self-deprecation or unwarranted complacency) is generally difficult to test the experience of love. After all, his life will be aimed at a permanent proof surrounding self-importance and relevance. And true love in a quest for elusive fame has no place. Any disharmony of family relationships, reflected in man from childhood, would subconsciously define his career, his reaction, an emotional backdrop as long as he does not want to live free from the rules imposed on him and behaviors.
Do not confuse love and human understanding of it
It turns out that the human experience of love is not useful, but on the contrary, it is a very harmful thing for posterity. We currently fills bumps and hurry to place our mistakes in the category of the untouchables and irrefutable truths. We make mistakes, suffer, suffer from unrequited love, and teach our children that it should be someone unknown to it, that is life and there’s nothing to be done about it. Sucking creature rather believe us, adults, and will live in an unconscious anticipation of future failures, pain and suffering. Of course, we think we want to make “the best, but it is as usual.”
Free your mind and open heart
It turns out that the love of the game in the mistaken love , actually involves a lot of ulterior motives : to prove attractiveness to conquer, subjugate, convert, tame, fall in love, in order to manipulate , to knock him out of the property, debts, and even feelings. It is necessary to look deeper, and of our desire to love is one word, hiding under a very specific action. But the actions are of an entirely different direction. We get used to pretend to blame, ask, and extort, demand, and put on the form. We make the rules and play by them, covering the hidden desires with beautiful words. To open your heart to true love, which is resistant to the commonplace description of “Love is …” (“Love – this is …”), you must first throw away all your accumulated deductions, beliefs and ideas about love. What it is, what your idea to be an “ideal” partner is and to have a happy marriage , family responsibilities and rights. Mental attitudes make life a template and program our behavior and the environment. And it turns out that men cannot see happiness as they do not want to abandon the standard of behavior and let the happiness in their lives.
Perhaps is the cliche, but we make our own lives, and we alone are responsible for what is in it. Even if our childhood to be unhappy (did not like the parents, and generally in the past, it was pleasant enough), there is no one but ourselves responsible for it. No need to blame anyone in this. And especially to attempt to retaliate against anyone for it. This is our personal experience, we do let it in our life. And of course, we are responsible for how we shall deal with these experiences.
All of our expectations, anticipations of the future and the subconscious mood filters from the surrounding area: the things, events, people and relationships, which we set up. Once they go into oblivion, amazing things happen: gaining insight as opposed to reasoning and logic, recognized freedom of our own choice and increases the feeling of flying through life instead of having to go with the flow. That is what it was in childhood. When we have not learned from those around us adults, as they believe, is complex and thorny path in life. And then comes the chance to experience the sensory level where the power of true love is. And in general, learn to feel truly without deceiving yourself and others.
Comments