How many people, so many characters. Every person is different, each person has his own power and principles. In the modern world it has become much more important to have in yourself those special features that would distinguish us from ordinary citizens in the crowd. However, sometimes we have to deal with misunderstanding and stigma and all for the same reason, our individual character. Some manners are beyond reasonable. “Reasonable” are those in which people feel comfortable. Agree with the fact that we attract friendly and simple-minded persons, little creative and moderately severe.
To change the attitude of others to ourselves, we have to make some effort and learn to live in harmony with the environment in order to suppress a negative quality.
Irritability
In this regard, there are many methods. You can do the whole complex therapy or swallow miracle pills, but mental exercises can help more. Many professionals recommend at the “outburst” mental arithmetic from 1 to 10. An excellent method, but not always effective. I suggest another option – try to solve any complex example that comes to mind. For example, 238 + 447. Being caught in this idea, you’ll soon forget about problems. If the irritation lasts a long time and if there is a reason, there is another option. One must sit in a room where you are comfortable, close your eyes and begin to pronounce aloud whatever causes negative emotions . For example: “Olga constantly clings to me, constantly criticizing me. Yesterday … “The most important thing is to begin the story again and again, until you feel some changes or you will be quiet or you laugh, etc.
Tearfulness
It is a very annoying trait of man. To get rid of it will take you many months. If the crying comes impulsively, for example you’re being insulted, or at the buffet ran out of your favorite muffins, try to escape, but in a slightly different form, more optimistic. You can turn on a favorite music, draw on a piece of dream, mentally draw a bouquet of favorite flowers, if someone was standing there and you do not want to seem strange. To get rid of that sweet feeling of sorrow for all you need to train often is to watch the drama and try to restrain yourself to read novels, as well as soothe any cry-baby which comes handy. This will help assess the situation from the outside.
Modesty and shyness
Modesty is not a bad quality. It allows you to keep yourself within. But sometimes this feature is to the detriment of a person, for example in important meetings, when applying for a job when you need to show all your abilities and you just nod and smile sweetly. If within half an hour you will need to play Hamlet, the output is behind the scenes, but rather with all the cast, show off, and begin to move a lot. Just do not want to overplay. Just fuel type, sit down a couple of times, sing a song. This method is very relaxing. Coming on the scene, you will not feel bad. If shyness found you at a date, then take something in your hand a salt shaker, a napkin and a pen. It soothes in stressful situations. In any case, training is not enough. Therefore, at every opportunity, display initiative and go on stage, or make a presentation .
Selfishness
We are all little selfish, so you can justify yourself, but on the way to get rid of the problem it will not work. If you are ever called selfish, believe me – the way it is. Fight the hardest selfishness, as selfish , advice is that you do not need selfishness and being selfish is bad to live. But if people suddenly ceased to look to you for help and tell their deepest secrets, then you must change something in yourself. The output is very simple. It is necessary to start for someone to care: to have a fish, a cat or start helping your younger brother for lessons. So, again you partakers mutual support and learn to understand others. This is not a complete list of all the negative qualities from which to get rid of. But we must understand that to have a negative character is not meant to be an authority. To learn how to get along with others you must change yourself and change your character. Then you can demand the same from others.
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